I still have about a week’s worth of marriage-enhancing tips/advice to share as it is such an important topic it needs great attention and also because people are so different, every marriage will be different and so different advice or thoughts or ideas will relate to different people – so trust you will find something that impacts you and your marriage [or future marriage] strongly. This collection of thoughts really struck me as powerful and effective from an old friend and playing-cards-into-the-early-hours-of-the-morning buddy, Carolyn Hugo Misdorp:
I have a couple as 1 thing is too hard.
1. Make sure that you spend time on your own relationship with God – if you’re not continually receiving God’s unconditional love and seeing things from His perspective it is really hard to love your spouse unconditionally.
2. Keep short accounts and resolve things properly. We pray together every night before we go to bed, which forces us not to let issues last for long without being resolved, as it is impossible to pray together if we’re angry with each other or hurt.
3. Be grateful for the big and little things – a simple thank you communicates a huge amount to your spouse and shows them that you are aware of the effort they are making for you and your family.
4. Pray for each other often.
I think that’s all
(Married 11 years)
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i had this epiphony in the shower the other day – if the only Bible’ing and praying you do is at your church gathering on a sunday once a week, then you don’t have a relationship with God, you have a relationship with church.
and i think that’s how a lot of people live – their spiritual life is their relationship with the meeting on a sunday
it becomes a little bit memento meets inception with a sprinkling of the matrix once you start arguing that ‘i am the church, how can i have a relationship with myself?’ but i think if you give it just a moment you will see what i mean, and then the next step is to ask whether or not it is you, and then if so, to stop it.
because it is destructive. to you. to the church. if you are not being actively in relationship with God every day every day, then when you meet together as the church on a sunday, you will not be equipped to bring a word of encouragement or challenge or a psalm or prayer or prophecy or ministry to other people and that, after all, is what church is meant to be all about – meeting together to equip, strengthen, motivate, heal, encourage for the purpose of heading out and being church for the rest of the week to those who will never set foot in one
i think it’s an even bigger danger for those in so-called fulltime ministry because you can feel like your focused ministry time (leading a cell, heading up a worship team, preaching, sunday school etc.) is your relationshipping with God, when it’s not
so this is for me. and for you. and especially during holiday time when so many of us go on holiday from God. just stop it. return to your first love. remain in Him. be still and know that He is God.
do it. just.