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we [myself, my beautiful wife Val, our housemate Sueihn and my gym and office buddy Coe aka ‘Bubbly’] just got back from a very long trip which involved two twenty-five-plus hour two day road trips on either side of a one day Nurturing Communities conference which lead directly into the Christian Community Development Association [CCDA] annual conference in Minneapolis, Minnesota… what a complete blast.

we had a great time road-tripping up, but it was our decision to take some moments on the way home in particular, to stop and in the absence of any roses to smell, just do some really silly things for good photographing and memoryabilling and so we did…

from upside down white house buildings to giant cow hay bales to halloween head platters to being asked why we climbed the ‘mountain’ with the native american on the horse on it [“it’s dangerous because we haven’t glued the rocks down”] we did a crazy bit of everything and had a LOT of fun…

Coe’s big desire on the way up was for us to take a jumping pic next to a “Welcome to [insert state name] State” board and every time we entered a new state there was a different reason why we missed them and on the way back it looked like the same thing was going to happen [to be honest he spurned the one i offered to stop at because it was not impressive enuff] and so when we hit our state of Pennsylvania on the way home i did a ‘now or never’ and we stopped at the Welcome Centre just inside of the state and took jumping pics near an even crappier sign… mission accomplished.

and then there was Coe’s new friend(s) mr and mrs stick insect hand creatures who at various parts of the trip made an appearance next to him or on both sides of him or occasionally on his head just to keep him on his toes and navigating well [has a bit of a spider underappreciation]

but the point was that life needs to be taken seriously, at all times, but sometimes it is the having fun aspects of life that need to be taken really seriously… we did that a lot and it made the whole trip a lot of fun and bonding and laughing goodness…

thankx team white lightning [our car’s name!] for making it there and back despite creative brake moments, oil light flashings and the dashboard lights pretty much coming on and off at random intervals as they always do…

last nite i was sitting chatting to my friend and hardcore gym buddy Coe at Mad Mex where we were hanging out celebrating Erica whose residency has reached an end and i suddenly had this surreal moment of watching myself/listening to myself speak.

the main topic of our conversation started with ‘Hunger Games’ which we both had watched this week and had different reactions to or feelings about, but then extended to the topic of ‘movies i have walked out of’ vs ‘why i will never walk out of a movie’ and a few things beyond that.

we have quite dramatically different [some would say ‘opposing’] views on the topic of conversation and yet at no point did the discussion get heated or did i call him an idiot [or even secretly think it] – what i did say was that i held value in the fact that Coe had a different view on something to me based on thought that he had put into it as opposed to complete lack of thought and just going along with what a lot of other people do/think. And that for me was incredible. I didn’t need to have him ‘come over to my side’ or end the discussion agreeing with me [he didn’t, but i hope and believe he saw and understood my points and point of view and wasn’t secretly calling me ‘idiot’ inside his head altho knowing Coe as i do, he would have almost definitely not kept it inside his head if he had thort so] and yet it was refreshing to discuss and hear a radically different opinion and way of doing things and also be able to understand the merit of his point of view.

at one point i said a lot of this stuff to him and how ‘twenty-years-ago Brett’ or even maybe ‘ten-years-ago Brett’ would more than likely not have displayed the same kind of maturity in conversation or probly even in thort as ‘present-day Brett’ had going on. and it was a moment of hey-maybe-i-do-actually-grow-or-change-from-time-to-time… which was a good feeling to have.

the other thing which i said to Coe which i think is important is that those other two Brett’s were probably not that much different in passion or belief or understanding – the way i addressed things then, the conversations i had, the letters i wrote, were all done with the same or similar kind of motivation and belief, but probably, at times, with less good execution or action. so i hold my belief from the conversation i had with Coe very passionately and for me i still see it as the truth i currently hold to [or what i believe as best as i can to be truth] while at the same time am able to hold that in tension alongside seeing and understanding why Coe holds his belief very passionately as the truth he currently holds to. and the possibility that we could in some way both be right. or both be wrong. or maybe more likely both be partially right and partially wrong. who knows? the conversation was part of a wrestle for truth which more people could do more of. we settle too quickly for ‘i’m right, everyone who thinks differently is wrong’ and not enough of ‘how can i learn from what you think and experience and believe?’

great chat with a good friend and exciting to have that personal moment of watching and listening to myself and the process of the discussion and how it went down, and to smile quietly to myself…

 

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