Since i have started speaking and writing more about issues of Race in South Africa i have had a fair amount of [mostly black] people telling me from time to time how brave i am. i don’t believe that is true.
NOT ON MY WATCH
i began the daily #NotOnMyWatch tag statuses on Facebook with the hope that more of my white friends [and their white friends] will take up the anthem and that we would see a movement start to grow, of white people refusing to let racism happen in front of them – in word or deed or even in joke or social media form.
Let me explain to you why that makes me a coward, rather than a brave person:
i have a philosophy on interrupting racism: i am standing in a supermarket and notice that the big Afrikaans man in front of me is berating the cashier for some or other reason and it quickly becomes obvious to me that this is a race thing. i intervene and he beats the crap out of me.
There is a movement of white people with a growing lifestyle of interrupting racism: i am standing in a supermarket and notice that the big Afrikaans man in front of me is berating the cashier for some or other reason and it quickly becomes obvious to me that this is a race thing. i intervene and within seconds, eleven other white people step in and declare #NotOnMyWatch and the racist quietly slinks off into the distance. Eighteen other people are watching and decide in that moment that the next time they see something racist, they will step in and make a difference.
Make sense? i am simply trying to make life easier and safer for myself.
MY ACTIONS ARE NOT PRAISEWORTHY
Two comments from my friend Linde linked to a #NotOnMyWatch status of mine that she shared help bring this point home [and i have asked her to write a post on it!]
This is beautiful and the kind of activism against racism I expect from all my white friends. I don’t reward it or applause it, as racism shouldn’t exist in the first place but I acknowledge the personal effort to get others on board.
“I don’t reward it or applause it” is so key because when we choose not to be racist, that is us moving towards a base point of what should be normal and acceptable. In the same way that you should not praise your child for not throwing their poo at the wall [it is normal and right to not throw poo at walls so if you do it, you’re deviating from that and should be brought back by correction] white people should not be praised for being less racist. We should be glanced at with “What took you so long?” eyes…
As a person of colour with white friends I’m learning too. I also have to scrutinise the role I play in perpetuating racism. Many of us (black people) reward white people for liking black people, for showing compassion towards black, especially for being against racism. This perpetuates racism as being the norm and not being racist as something done only by saints. Obviously this leads to dehumanising of black people.
i imagine this year i will write [or have guests write] more about the dehumanising of black people and the other concept which struck me more deeply in a conversation we had this week was the idea of different areas of violence [how receiving an inferior education was violence, how a removing of one’s parents in terms of them having to travel long hours to work a menial job was violence etc] to consider…
There is much work to be done. But too much of it is sadly to get us to a base place of what should be normal. So please don’t be calling me brave or applauding my actions until we get there.
i am not brave. i certainly don’t do what i do out of fear, but out of a heart that seeks to love God and love people and treat others as i would love to be treated. But i am also deeply mindful of the danger that exists if we white people as a whole do not get more engaged and in touch and open to what is happening and needs to happen at a much faster pace than we have been doing and seeing.
[For the piece i wrote on the #NotOnMyWatch hashtag and movement, click here]
[For the hunt to be a Better Ally to our friends of colour, click here]
I have been saying EXACTLY this for so long!
i do not praise you for the actions, but the belief in how you want to be recognized, more people really need to be like you!
People think praise is the endgame trophy. And thinks for not throwing poo at the wall.
Appreciate your comments, thanks for stopping by. And don’t give up – we need more people to rise to the challenge of investing in these conversations and the actions that must follow…
love brett fish
I think free education would be ideal, but it will never happen with ANC in power. It just cannot as they do not know how to run a county. The students should start something like #anewgovernment or #thepeoplemustrule or #feesinsteadofvipplane maybe there are a bit long, can someone think of one.
I am also suspicious of the Penny Sparrow saga. As a 2nd year student, we had Rhodes must fall at UCT and then Zuma shuffled ministers around. It came at a very opportune time for the ANC to distract us all from his manoeuvrings. I did some research and so did my friends, and guess what. We could not find anything on penny sparrow. We looked in old phone books, online white pages and even phoned these agents, but nobody had ever spoken to or seen her. They had heard of her. No bond records and… The I’d number does not match her name it’s another person. So why is this? Was it a conspiracy, fabricated by the ANC to divert attention? Does she even exist? Have a look yourself and it’s very strange.
We need to unite black and white people. A march whereby a black person teams up and holds hands with a white could send a powerful message. How about a #weonepeople march or #unity march? Hold hands. Where do you ever see such a march?
The government likes to divide us all by race, class, political affiliation. Divide and rule. As a political student, I know Machiavelli and this ANC must also know and apply these techniques. Let’s arrange a unity or similar march. You good at words and hash tags. Maybe come up with it? End of January or February in town by the parade or outside parliament during their speech.